Unconscious Bias: Why it Happens and How to Unlearn It

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Before you finish reading this paragraph, your brain has already made a judgment about someone.  Their accent , their appearance , their profession, or the way they expressed an idea.  You did not consciously choose to judge — and that is exactly how unconscious bias works. Unconscious bias refers to the automatic assumptions and mental shortcuts our brains use to process the world quickly. These biases are shaped by culture, media, upbringing, education, and personal experiences. They exist everywhere — across countries, professions, and social systems . The uncomfortable truth is this: even kind, educated, well-intentioned people have unconscious bias. What matters is not pretending we don’t have it, but learning how to recognize and unlearn it. “We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are.” This article explores common examples of unconscious bias seen globally and practical ways anyone can overcome them. What Is Unconscious Bias?  Unconscious bias is not ...

Living in the Present Moment: Lessons from The Power of Now

Stress, anxiety, and overthinking are some of the most common struggles of modern life. 

Our minds constantly jump between regrets of the past and worries about the future. As a result, we rarely experience the present moment, even though it is the only place where life actually happens. 

Recently I read Eckhart Tolle’s  book The Power of Now beautifully explains why this happens and how we can gently return to the present.


Why Stress and Anxiety Keep Us Out of the Present

Stress and anxiety are deeply connected to time. Stress is usually linked to the future—deadlines, expectations, fear of failure—while anxiety often comes from replaying the past or imagining negative outcomes.

At work, for example, you may be physically sitting at your desk, but mentally you are already worrying about a meeting tomorrow or replaying a mistake you made last week. 

At home, you may be sitting with your family, yet your mind is elsewhere—thinking about bills, career plans, or unresolved conflicts.

Eckhart Tolle explains that this constant mental noise comes when we believe every thought we have, we lose touch with the present moment.

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.” — Eckhart Tolle



The Core Message of The Power of Now

The central teaching of The Power of Now is simple yet profound that peace exists only in the present moment

The past and future are mental constructs. They are useful for learning and planning, but when we live in them psychologically, they become a source of suffering.

Our mind loves problems. It keeps itself busy by creating stories, judgments, and fears. The present moment, however, is usually neutral or even peaceful—unless we add mental resistance to it.

“Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.” — Eckhart Tolle

This perspective helps us understand why mindfulness and presence can instantly reduce stress.


Overthinking: The Enemy of Inner Peace

Overthinking is the habit of continuously analyzing, predicting, and replaying events. While thinking is necessary, excessive thinking disconnects us from life.

Imagine you are at work preparing a report. Instead of focusing on the task, your mind keeps saying:

- What if my boss doesn’t like it?

- What if I make a mistake?

- I should have done better last time.

As a result, your productivity decreases, stress increases, and you feel mentally exhausted. 

The work itself is not the problem—the mental commentary around it is.


At home, overthinking shows up when you replay conversations, worry about loved ones, or imagine worst-case scenarios. Even moments meant for rest become mentally heavy.

Tolle calls this the pain-body—accumulated emotional pain that gets activated when we unconsciously dwell on negative thoughts.



How Staying Present Changes Everyday Life

When you start living in the present, your relationship with stress transforms.

At work, you focus on one task at a time instead of worrying about outcomes.

At home, you truly listen instead of planning your next response.

During routine activities, like eating or walking, you feel more grounded and calm. 

Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? — Eckhart Tolle

Acceptance does not mean giving up; it means working with reality instead of fighting it.



Practical Tips to Stay in the Present Moment

Here are some simple, practical techniques inspired by The Power of Now Book that you can apply immediately.

1. Observe Your Thoughts Without Judgment

Instead of trying to stop thinking, watch your thoughts. Notice how the mind jumps from past to future. This observation itself creates distance and awareness.

Example: At work, when stress arises, silently say, “I am noticing stress.” This shifts you from being lost in thought to being aware.



2. Use the Breath as an Anchor

Your breath always happens in the present. When the mind becomes restless, bring gentle attention to your breathing.

Feel the air entering your nose take deep inspiration and hold and then exhale slowly 

Notice the rise and fall of your chest

Even 30 seconds of conscious breathing can calm the nervous system.



3. Focus on Sensory Awareness

Simple acts pull the mind out of overthinking and into the Now.

Engage your senses fully.

While eating, notice taste and texture

While walking, feel your feet touching the ground

While washing dishes, notice the temperature of the water



4. Practice Single-Tasking at Work

Multitasking keeps the mind scattered. Choose one task and give it your full attention.

Instead of worrying about the next task, remind yourself:

 “Right now, this is all that matters.”

This improves both efficiency and mental clarity.



5. Accept What Is, Then Act

Resistance creates suffering. Acceptance creates peace.

If something is challenging—traffic, workload, family issues—first accept it mentally. Then take the best possible action without emotional resistance.



The Role of Stillness and Silence

Silence is not the absence of sound; it is the space between thoughts.

You can experience stillness:

Early in the morning

Before sleeping

By sitting quietly for a few minutes

 “Stillness is the language God speaks, and everything else is a bad translation.” — Eckhart Tolle

Even brief moments of stillness reconnect you with your deeper self.


Living the Power of Now in a Busy World

Living in the present does not mean abandoning goals or responsibilities. It means not losing yourself in mental time while pursuing them.

You can plan for the future, learn from the past, and still remain rooted in the present moment. 

This balance reduces anxiety, improves focus, and brings a sense of inner peace that external success alone cannot provide.



Final Thoughts: The Present Is Your Power

Stress, anxiety, and overthinking thrive when we forget the present moment. 

The Power of Now reminds us that peace is not something we achieve later—it is available now.

By observing thoughts, grounding yourself in daily activities, and practicing acceptance, you slowly shift from living in the mind to living in life itself.

Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be.— Eckhart Tolle

The present moment is not just a moment—it is where healing, clarity, and true peace begin.


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  1. Great post. Being mindful in the present is all important, isn't it?
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